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Javien: Hey how are you doing? I’m Javien and I need to ask you some questions. I know you don’t know me, but I need a woman’s advice. Ok I’m 21 and me and my fiance have been together for a year and 6 months and we planned to get married on the 19th of June. Her parents don’t like me, well her step daddy doesn’t.  Her mom only likes me when I GOT money and she needs something. Other than that she talk about me behind my back and I don’t know what to do. Should marry her or not?

J-licious: That can be a tough situation IF your girl does not support you and the relationship and vice versa.  You and your girl are gonna have to be able to withstand any and all opposing family members. That includes her step dad and her mother. If you are into sports you know what I’m talking about. Football is a great example. The team makes sure to ‘protect’ the quarterback at all costs. And because they protect him, he’s got time to find that open man….you know the rest. So you guys are going to have to protect each other at all costs. And in protecting each other, the marriage is safe and solid.

I was in a similar situation and know firsthand that any relationship intimate or not has to be treated like a business. Love is a beautiful thing, but it takes work and sometimes HARD work. It is going to take her telling her parents to step back and allow the two of you to start your own family. And it’s gonna take you showing her that you got her.

Now on the flip side, I’m a parent that only wants the ‘best’ for my children. And I believe her parents are feeling to same way. It’s a natural thing. However, as parents we don’t always ‘know’ what’s best. We just think we do. So, as long as you take care of their ‘little girl’ you’ll be alright. May take some time, but you guys are in it for the long haul, right? So you got plenty of time to win them over. And if not, so be it. Besides, you’ve done the hard part….you’ve won her over….lol

As a side note, STOP GIVING HER MOTHER MONEY!!!!! Believe me, if you don’t stop it now, you’ll soon regret it.

Hope this helps,

J

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Mirah B:  At times, I question the success of some of the ministers that are large in the public eye. Not that I wish them ill or believe that their successes are not genuine, just that there have been so many televangelist that have been exposed as fraudulent that I am a bit skeptic of them. I believe the same is true of a lot of the general public. (A bit like the prisoner finding religion – is it sincere or an act to acheive something desired?)
I don’t think God intends for his children to suffer and live in poverty. I believe there is abundance for all of his children. However, some of the most spiritual people I have met have been from very poor circumstances. Having said that, it makes me question the direct relationship of spirituality and wealth. What is your take on this?

J-licious:  Mirah, thank you so much for your comments. First let me clarify one thing. When I speak of God, I speak of the God In Me. I do not believe that God is ‘outside’ of me. So to answer your question, the God in me does not intend for me to be poor. Nor does the God in me intend for me to struggle through this life (or any other life for that matter). The God in me wants and intends for me what I want and intend for myself. And I feel that is one of the many reasons why the televangelist that you speak of are prosperous. Because the God in them wants them to succeed. The other reason they are so successful is because the people they minister to think their God is outside of them. Once they come to the realization that God is within and not without, change will come. As for your friends that you speak about….are they STILL living in poverty or did they just COME from poverty? If they are still living in poverty, I would have to ask why? Please keep in mind that spiritual leaders such as Gandhi, Mother Teresa and even Jesus were NOT poor. That has been such a misconception. Again, thanks for the comments AND the questions!!!!!
Light, Love and PROSPERITY!!!!!!
J-licious