Ask J-licious
RELATIONSHIPS
Javien: Hey how are you doing? I’m Javien and I need to ask you some questions. I know you don’t know me, but I need a woman’s advice. Ok I’m 21 and me and my fiance have been together for a year and 6 months and we planned to get married on the 19th of June. Her parents don’t like me, well her step daddy doesn’t. Her mom only likes me when I GOT money and she needs something. Other than that she talk about me behind my back and I don’t know what to do. Should marry her or not?
J-licious: That can be a tough situation IF your girl does not support you and the relationship and vice versa. You and your girl are gonna have to be able to withstand any and all opposing family members. That includes her step dad and her mother. If you are into sports you know what I’m talking about. Football is a great example. The team makes sure to ‘protect’ the quarterback at all costs. And because they protect him, he’s got time to find that open man….you know the rest. So you guys are going to have to protect each other at all costs. And in protecting each other, the marriage is safe and solid.
I was in a similar situation and know firsthand that any relationship intimate or not has to be treated like a business. Love is a beautiful thing, but it takes work and sometimes HARD work. It is going to take her telling her parents to step back and allow the two of you to start your own family. And it’s gonna take you showing her that you got her.
Now on the flip side, I’m a parent that only wants the ‘best’ for my children. And I believe her parents are feeling to same way. It’s a natural thing. However, as parents we don’t always ‘know’ what’s best. We just think we do. So, as long as you take care of their ‘little girl’ you’ll be alright. May take some time, but you guys are in it for the long haul, right? So you got plenty of time to win them over. And if not, so be it. Besides, you’ve done the hard part….you’ve won her over….lol
As a side note, STOP GIVING HER MOTHER MONEY!!!!! Believe me, if you don’t stop it now, you’ll soon regret it.
Hope this helps,
J
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