When you look in the mirror, what do you see? If you’re like most women, what you see has nothing to do with what is staring back at you. Your mind’s eye takes over and you become critical of your ‘flaws’. Your mind’s eye sees that you are too fat, too skinny, too dark, too light. Your hair is too curly or too straight. You’re too tall or you’re too short. However, the truth of the matter is that you are PERFECT. No one could ever be a more perfect you than you.
The way you view your body is a direct reflection of your self- esteem or the lack thereof. Not to mention that what you see in yourself is what you project to the world. Low self-esteem causes you to see yourself as ‘Damaged Goods’. I call this the Damaged Goods Syndrome. When you fail to see your beauty, you begin to believe that you are unpretty, undesirable, good for nothing….DAMAGED.
I know the effects of this illness firsthand. I suffered from Damaged Goods Syndrome. When my marriage failed and I was left with 3 young children, I saw myself as Damaged Goods. I wondered what man was going to take the risk of loving me AND my children. At the time, I did not realize that my negative thoughts were causing me to attract partners that played right into my illness. Once I begin to see myself for who I am, they were no longer attracted to me AND I was no longer attracted to them. See how that works?
Damaged Goods Syndrome is a serious illness and it will take some serious therapy to cure. You will have to be dedicated to your own healing because no one can do this for you. You will most certainly have to self-medicate and self-meditate. Here’s a list of things you can do:
1. Speak only to your strengths. Be mindful that your thoughts about you are positive.
2. Surround yourself with positive people.
3. Celebrate your successes
4. Do more of what you love.
5. Be true to yourself.
6. Give back and I don’t mean money. Become involved in community projects. Seek to help others.
7. Speak your affirmations aloud. Be sure to use the words… I AM. For example, I AM BEAUTIFUL!
8. Pamper yourself.
9. Graciously acknowledge compliments.
10. Invest in yourself. Read, listen and watch material that is conducive to improving your self esteem.
To your healing,
J-licious
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