I’m a big fan of Facebook. I love the networking aspect. Not to mention I have been reunited with classmates and friends I have not seen in over 20+ years. It has also allowed me to create new friendships. As I was reading status updates, I came across this one…
Your WIFE needs to feel emotionally filled before she desires to be sexually involved.
I was like, wow! Then I do as I always do, I asked myself, ‘is this true for me?’ In order for me to answer that question, I had to break down each word. Here’s my analysis of this statement. Please keep in mind, I wrote…this is MY analysis.
WIFE- Why is the word wife all caps? Perhaps to make it clear that it’s usually the woman who desires being ‘emotionally filled’. In general, men are not emotional, right? WRONG! There were a few comments that suggested that where women needed both mental and physical, men only needed the physical. I have quite a few male friends and they ALL agree that it’s not just a physical thing for them. That yes, they may be attracted to the physical, but it takes much more to hold their attention. But aren’t women attracted to the physical as well? Even if it’s the physical car, house, money, clothes….ect All those things are PHYSICAL things.
NEEDS – Hmmmmm. I’ve never liked the feeling of ‘neediness’. The feeling of need indicates that something is lacking. And I would like to think that I am whole; therefore, NEED nothing. Especially nothing outside of me. Any and everything outside of me that I feel I ‘need’ controls me. So to need something is to relinquish control.
EMOTIONALLY-FILLED – Filled with emotions. Well there are hundreds of emotions including, but not limited to anger, frustration, despair, abandonment, numbness and the list goes on and on. Who would want a woman filled with those emotions? Or perhaps the author was speaking of contentment, gratitude, peace and love. Either way, there is no way one man could ‘FILL’ a woman emotionally. And if he could fill her, then that would mean he could deplete her as well, right? Well, I prefer to ‘FILL’ myself. This way I get what I want every single time. No one is responsible for my ‘filling’ except me.
SEXUALLY INVOLVED- I don’t know about you, but I’ve engaged in sex for the pure fun of it. It had nothing to do with being ‘emotionally-filled’. My body was thirsty and I drank from the intoxicating liqueur we call sex. Simple as that. Of course there have been times when I wanted to feel the connection that only lovemaking offers. And I enjoyed that as well. Please don’t get the words sex and lovemaking confused. They are NOT the same.
I could go on and on with more of a break down, but I think by now you get my point. Too often people enter a relationship because of what they think they can get. I suggest that you become that thing that you are wanting to get and you’ll always have it. For example, if love is what you want to get, become loving. If peace is what you want to get, become peaceful. Don’t allow yourself to become dependent on another for what you ‘NEED’. If you do, I promise, you’ll be forever needing.
Light, Love and Blessings,
J-licious
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