Female Self-Pleasure
Sex is a very touchy topic to openly discuss. Masturbation or self-pleasure is just as touchy. (No pun intended.) It is because most people are taught to think of sex, including masturbation as a dirty carnal sin. People tend to think if you masturbate, you are over sexed–or a nympho or your partner does not please you and therefore inept. Even though we do not talk about it, masturbation is as normal a human characteristic as needing self awareness, love or spirituality. Yes, I said spirituality.
Self-pleasure is accepted and expected among men; however, the opposite is expected of women. In spite of the sexual revolution, female masturbation is still somewhat taboo. Couples generally do not discuss the subject of masturbation which is a shame because if men and women were more open to the possibilities of self-love then there opens up the possibility for couples to really spice up their sex life and for more intense and pleasurable orgasms. How can you tell/show your partner what works for you, if you don’t know?
Self pleasure is the only way for a person to really learn their body and what pleases them. To really get the most from love-making with your sexual partner you must know your own body first. This is true for both men and women. You must explore your own body and listen to what it tells you. Self pleasure and exploration is the key to better love-making. Masturbation can be a very empowering learning tool for women – it teaches us about our bodies, and how it responds to sexual stimulation. Many normal and healthy women only experience an orgasm while masturbating, or find it is their most intense type of orgasm. I can not tell you the number of times my close friends or clients have told me that they have never experienced an orgasm with their partner.
While it is certainly unfounded and untrue, the majority of people believe that women are less sexual than men. Where do you think the term ‘cougar’ comes from? We are led to believe that women think about sex and desire sex much less. Society creates outcasts of women who are openly sexual. We are seen as promiscuous or as whores. This results in women believing they should not have strong sexual feelings and desires. Unfortunately, many women are ashamed to admit they become ‘horny’. This results in women introverting and denying their own sexual feelings and desires. While a woman’s desire for sex may change with time, they are overall just as sexual as men. If a woman accepts that she is equally as sexual as a man, she is more likely to feel comfortable with her desire to ‘please herself’. Once you know what you enjoy sexually, it will be possible to share that information with your partner and ask for what you want and need sexually.
Enjoy,
J-licious
I believe you have a valid point, in that for a woman to self pleasure, to put in nicely is important. Yes, society has definitely given women a bad rap when it comes to sexual maturity. This is especially true because if you ask a real and honest man, married or single, they will abmit we men want a freak in the bedroom. I am not being rude, just real.
I want to be with a woman who has command over her body and her mind when it comes to sex. That takes a mature, healthy attitude about sex. When I look back I have learned that when I was with a woman who was not afraid to masturbate in front of me, I took mental notes and learned how to bring her to orgasm. My thoughts; women may be even more sexual than men. I think men are sexually conscious or aware of sex in our daily activites. This is because we are visual creatures, but women are truly sexual creatures in my opinion. The way a woman walks or crosses her legs, her movements and fermones send signals into the atmosphere. When God said it is not good that man should be alone, I think God was considering the unmatched pleasure of being with a woman who is pleasing and wants to be pleased by her man.
OK, “changing the channel” for a moment, as a friend of mine would say; children self pleasure and it is natural, men do the same, but it may not be the topic on guys night out. Self awareness and self confidence may have roots in our sexual knowledge of self. I know this may sound strange but I have heard it said by women before “if I have to ask for it or tell a man what to do in bed, then its not gonna’ be satisfying”. My thoughts are if you have to ask for it and he delivers you found a pretty good man, on the other hand if you don’t ask for it, then woman you are gonna” be sexually frustrated.
Last note from a man to women reading this post, remember when it comes to the opposite sex most of us men don’t know much about women, we just want you! You women may have to hunker down and just show and tell us what you really want. This may take some of the romance and mystery out of things, but we can be fast learners when we want to…
It is a “dirty sin” until you experience it. Once you experience it you’ll skip morning service just to get a quickie in. Yeah, It’s normal and you know why I know this? Because people do it. If it were abnormal God probably have made our arms so short we couldn’t even reach those intimate parts of ourselves. Even then we’d find a way to feel the fire and ice of self-pleasure.
You can’t give away something you don’t yet have. Here’s a litmus test. Buy a dildo for your wife/lover and you place it where you think it might feel the best on her and watch her face. Next, give it to her and look where she places it and then watch her face. I promise you there will be no comparison in facial expressions. She knows how to pleasure herself if given the opportunity and you will learn a lot.
So many people (especially women) are so sexually repressed that its no wonder that they haven’t crashed a plane into the twin towers or blown up some downtown hotel.
On the contrary, women are actually more sexual than men. Examine a the sensory glands on a woman’s clitoris and you will know what I mean. Besides most women are multi-orgasmic and men are not.
Great post sister. Thanks for going where few women would dare to go. (Inside, around and outside) – No pun intended.