How many times have you been told or heard that ‘good’ women make ‘sacrifices for their husbands, for their children, and for the sake of the family? I know I’ve heard it PLENTY!!!!! In society women have been the sacrificial lambs of sacrifice. It is not uncommon to find the so called wise in the community blindly offering the advice of ‘sacrificing for the sake of the family’. These advices are generally offered to women who act in the interest of her SELF’. She is advised to sacrifice when the man in her life does not want to make an effort to support the needs and interests of the family. She is told to sacrifice her career so that she is able to stay at home with her children. She is told that once she decided to have a family her life is no longer hers. Her life is to serve her family.
Sacrifice is not at all about denial or suppression of interests and desires. Sacrifice is about setting aside certain things while pursuing one’s passion and interest that defines and creates who you are. Sacrifice is simply about choosing passion over other interests of life. Sacrifice is never an effort on part of the person who is sacrificing although it may seem to be from the outside looking in. Now, when we view the sacrifices women are asked to make in light of the true meaning of sacrifice, we can clearly see that they are not sacrifices at all; it is denial of herself.