Move Past the Fear

My niece, Aja was preparing to perform in a program for the elementary school she attends.  She decided that she would ‘be’ Michael Jackson.  As she practiced, her mother asked her if she was afraid.  Her response…‘yeah, I’m afraid, but I’m still gonna do it’.  Out of the mouth of babes, right?  This day, my niece reminded me of a valuable lesson.  She reminded me to move past my fear(s).

First let’s define fear.  I have adopted the definition of  fear as False Evidence Appearing Real. Just repeating those words has caused me to see things differently.  Those things that I thought were real and out to get me, I’ve come to realize they can do me no harm.  Not only are they harmless, they don’t even exist.   I have made all of it up in my mind.  And because I am the creator, I can create something different, something more to my liking.  Just recently, I have been faced with several obstacles that have given me another opportunity to move past my fears.

I’ve played the role of mother for 20 years.  So when  my children started preparing to move out of the house, I felt a piece of me was moving with them.  Then I realize that I was afraid.  I was afraid that if they left, I would be alone.  That somehow they would forget me.  Silly, I know, but I’m being honest here.   I realize my children came through me, not to me.  My children do not belong to me.  They are not mine to keep.   I decided that, yeah I’m afraid, but I’m gonna let go anyway.

I also play the role of business owner.    When one of my largest accounts filed bankruptcy, I became afraid.  I went into panic mode.  I allowed that one event to take over my mindset.  So for the past 6 months, there has been a decline in my business.  Instead of keeping my head up, continuing to market and promote my services, I begin to feel defeated.  I was afraid that I would not be able to meet my financial obligations.  I was afraid that I would not be able to support myself nor my family.  Now I say, yeah I’m afraid, but I’m gonna continue to market and promote my services.

Each of us have experienced a fear of something.  It could have been fear of the unknown, fear of failure, and even fear of success.  Fear has kept many people, including myself from moving forward, from taking the next step.  How many times have we said or heard someone else say…I wish I had, I could have, I should have or I would have.  The only thing that keeps you where you are is False Evidence Appearing Real.  The key word here being False.  Usually what we fear the most never even comes to pass.   I implore you to look fear in it’s eyes and say……yeah, I’m afraid, but I’m still gonna Be, Do and Have what I desire most.

Moving Past the Fear,

J-licious

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