Too often in today’s society, we find men and women engaging in what has been coined ‘Sport Fucking’. The name alone gives you an idea of the emptiness in such a sexual encounter. Perhaps it ‘feels’ good for the moment; however, how long does that feeling last? And what does it cost you in return? I would think that ‘sport fucking’ would be similar to an addiction. Or perhaps it is not only similar to, it is an addiction. A person goes on the hunt for that ‘feeling’ over and over and over again. Only to find that they are still empty, unfulfilled and tired of all the sporting around.
I know a few people who engage in sex as a sport. To their friends they talk about how much fun they are having. They smile as they share their escapades. Yet when I’ve sat down with them in intimate conversation, they share a very different story. They tell stories of disgust….of themselves and their sexual partners. They share how they feel unclean and dirty. They tell stories of lies and deceit. They question why they even continue in such acts. They also share stories of unquestioned pain and even loneliness. They even secretly wish they knew how to stop. How ironic is that? Although they have multiple partners, they still feel a sense of loneliness.
Now on the other hand we have another type of union. We have what I call Sacred Sex. There is more to sex than what our parents, teachers, television, internet or society has told us. There is a sacredness about sex that most couples have yet to experience. Sex involves the mind and the spirit as well as the body. The sacredness of a sexual union releases a powerful force within the body that can be harnessed to take you well beyond an orgasm into a higher state of consciousness.
Your sexuality is a precious part of your nature and deserves to be treated with honor and respect. In order to reach the level of sacredness that I am writing about, there must be a high level of trust between partners. When you fully trust and reverence your partner, there are no sexual boundaries or rules except those decided between the two of you. The sacredness of sex develops as you open up to each other, sharing your thoughts, feelings, fears, desires and fantasies. Not only does this allow for a more rewarding relationship, it also allows for a more rewarding sexual relationship.
As temperatures continue to fall as we enter into our winter season, cuddle, touch, kiss, rub feet. Honor yourself and your partner by connecting in a sacred way.
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