Greetings in Jesus name:
My word says people die for the lack of knowledge, I am the wife of (name deleted) and I am here because it has come to my attention that my beloved husband has a problem and so as a devoted wife I am on the side of the women he thinks he is trying to seduce on line….be forewarned do not fall into his trap. If you do not believe me then go to the horse’s mouth and ask him straight out if he is married and feel free to ask me any questions. I was innocent and fell for the lies. Now he is in my home and doing the same thing to me please do not become a victim…please send to all your friends……
I received the above email on yesterday. I was shocked and didn’t know what to make of it. The email did not come off as abrasive or condemning. She simply wanted to put his ‘friends’ on notice. I don’t know this lady’s husband. I’ve never met him nor communicated with him. However, when I did my research I found that he is one of my ‘friends’ on a social networking site. So I figured his wife must have discovered that he was meeting women online and decided to take action.
The ironic thing about receiving this message on yesterday is that I was dealing with something very similar. I’ve been the wife who’s husband was conversing with women online. And when I read the email some of those residual feelings I THOUGHT I let go of came crushing down on me. The one thing I discerned from reading the email was that this wife understood that she did not have to be silent about what she had discovered. Instead of bowing down, she stood up and took action. She contacted each woman on his friend list and sent them this same email. I’m pretty sure the husband heard what she had to say as he is no longer my ‘friend’ on today.
Although I don’t know this woman, I applaud her. I am happy that she knows her worth and did not allow her husband’s actions to demean who she is. She seems to understand that her husband’s actions are his alone. Of course, I’m not seeing the whole picture of what is going on in the marriage and I would not dare ‘take sides’. However, what I do know is that you can not control the actions of another, but you can control your reactions. So whatever his reasons are for meeting women online are his alone. Yeah, it’s easy to shift the blame. Some may say SHE drove him to it. I think that statement is as ludicrous as saying….’the devil made me do it’.
During the time that I found myself dealing with something similar, I did question myself. I wondered if there was something that I did ‘wrong’. I thought perhaps it was me. Maybe I wasn’t sexy enough, smart enough, or pretty enough. Maybe I just wasn’t ‘good’ enough. It took me a while, but I finally wobbled from my knees to my feet and STOOD UP AND TOOK ACTION. I declared that who I am is not only good enough…..who I am is BETTER than good enough. And if my better than good enough was not good enough for him, then let him and all the negativity that’s attached to the relationship go. And that’s just what I did. It wasn’t easy and at times I still feel the ‘sting’ of it all. However, the ‘sting’ does not come close to what I was feeling being silent. Now I am not saying you should stand up and walk out. That is something you will have to decide for yourself. But please know you don’t have to be silent.
This is your life. You deserve to be happy. Stand up and take action.
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