The Attraction Factor

Recently, I’ve had the pleasure of watching a few DVDs by Eben Pagan aka David DeAngelo.  The title of the DVD series is Man Transformation.  Now you may be wondering why in the world would a woman watch a DVD entitled Man Transformation.  You would think that this material is strictly for men.  However, I’m here to tell you that this information is for both men and women alike.  I have had numerous insights into a man’s world.  And because of those insights, I understand my past relationships much better.  I think he should reconsider the title of his DVD because although I am a woman, I was transformed as well.

After listening to just one DVD, I began to realize what happened in some of my past intimate relationships.   I thought the attraction, the passion and the love were gone.  Then I realized that it was there, just buried underneath all the hurt and pain we caused each other over the years.  And because we continued to bury the hurt and pain instead of resurrecting what once sizzled, it just fizzled out.  Instead of discussing our concerns, we chose to talk on eggshells just to keep the peace.  But in the end, there was no peace, just a bunch of broken pieces.

I realized that I got just what I gave in that relationship.  If I gave him distrust, he gave me reasons not to trust.  If I gave him anger, he gave me reasons to become angry.  If I gave him disappointment, he gave me reasons to be disappointed.  In essence, he gave me just what I gave him.  He was my mirror.  I was determined to take from that relationship the lessons I needed in order to be more successful in my next relationship.  I decided that I would not become bitter or angry.  I decided to become a better me so that I would attract a better relationship.  If I wanted to attract a man that was financially stable, then I needed to get my finances in order.  If I wanted to attract a confident, self sufficient man, then I needed to become a confident, self sufficient woman.  I realized that in order to have what I wanted, I needed to first become that.  This way when he (whoever ‘he’ is) held up the mirror, I would love my reflection.

There has been arguments as to whether like attracts like or if opposites attract.  I’m not certain as to which theory is correct.  What I do know is that in order to experience a change in your life, you have to change your life.  And in order to attract that ‘perfect’ mate, you have to BECOME a perfect mate.

In love,

J-licious

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