When I was a kid one of the things I secretly wished for was to just go away, to be invisible. I felt that if no one could see me, then I would be free. Free from what I’m not sure. Maybe it was free from pain…pain of any sort. Even as a young adult I secretly carried this wish with me. Now I realize that being invisible is not all it’s cracked up to be. Let me explain.
When in a relationship, if you choose to be invisible, your partner can not see you. Because your partner is unable to see you, then it’s difficult for him/her to honor you. It’s not until you show yourself that your partner has any chance of ever giving you what you say you need and/or want. What I mean by being invisible in a relationship is that you do not share the intimate parts of who you are. You may want to experience a certain thing. Instead of sharing that with you partner you hide those desires, you keep that part invisible. There may be some things that really annoy you and instead of speaking your truth, you remain silent. You put on your cloak of invisibility so that he/she is unable to see your dislike. You walk and talk on eggshells. Playing the invisible role can be detrimental to your relationship.
The cloak on invisibility can also be detrimental to your business. If you are a business owner and no one is able to SEE your business, you will soon find yourself looking for a job. In this case, it is imperative that you market, market, market. Did I say market? No matter how great your services or products maybe, if you are not visible to the public, it doesn’t matter. There could be hundreds, thousands, millions of people in need of your service or product; however, if you have your cloak on, no one will ever see you.
Even in matters of your everyday life, if you go around wearing the invisible cloak, people will walk all over you. They will not hear what you have to say, they will not even notice that you exists. Now I’m not saying that you should wear your brightest dress/suit, or that you should shout from the mountaintop to be noticed. Then again, that may not be such a bad idea. What I am saying is that in order to get what you say you want, you have to be present. You have to be focused. You have to be alive. You have to be VISIBLE!!!!! So take it off and be seen.
In love,
J-licious
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